17 Jan 2011 For Richer or Poorer, For Better or Worst
 |  Category: marriage, ministry

Growing up I was impressed with how great of a pastor’s wife my mom is. With the example my mom set I felt like I too could be a good pastor’s wife. But I didn’t want to be a senior pastor’s wife, I’d rather be a youth pastor’s wife, because that would be easier. Ha! Recently I have learned that being a youth pastor’s wife does not make the fact of being a pastor’s wife any easier. And I have laughed at my previous thought many times!

Over the last couple years I have met some wonderful youth pastor’s wives and have had the blessing to keep in touch with them. And I have also received some emails from some special ladies who have found my blog through their husbands following Tim’s blog. Lately I have been praying about what I should do with this. How can God use me to benefit others who have married a man totally devoted to Christ and following a call to minister vocationally? I’m not promising regular blogs about being a youth pastor’s wife. There are some moments when times get tough and personal, like lately. And I know that in the moment it is better for me to hold my tongue, and wait until I can see more of what God is doing in my life through my current situation.

For those of you who may be coming to see how I am doing through Tim’s termination because you are going through the same thing and need some encouragement, this is for you… You will make it through this. It’s okay to cry and let your emotions out. Continue to read Scripture, or get your Bible back in your hands. Let your husband know how you are doing. God loves you and is in control. God has great plans for you, which includes taking you through a time of trial to make you an even stronger woman so that you can serve Him even more.

I feel like I’m giving myself a pep talk, because I have fought and fought to stifle my emotions and not deal with what is going on. Almost 2 months later I still have moments where I break down, because I have slowly let myself work through our situation. It wasn’t until last Sunday that I finally grabbed my Bible in over a month and started studying Scripture again. I have been battling my mind over and over, especially since I started reading Scripture again and am trying to put total trust in God with our situation. I know in my head that God is in control, but my actions and thoughts have not been proving my faith. I haven’t once gotten mad at God for Tim’s termination. I have over and over tried to figure out what God is going to do next with and through our family. I don’t have any answers, and that’s okay.

I’m hoping that through this process I can be an encouragement to other pastor’s wives. That God will use this time of trial to reach others. And hopefully piece by piece I can share our story of how amazing God was to Tim and I during 2010. We had very high highs, and very low lows.

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3 Responses

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    Carrie M. 

    Dana…Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I too am going through this exact thing with my husband. It’s very difficult on various levels and for various reasons. He keeps telling me “we have to trust God with this” for every question and concern I bring up to him. I admit, I worry ALL THE TIME and know it’s not healthy, nor is it biblical. However, I’m human and come by it honestly. I am going to take your advice and pick up my Bible and start reading scripture again. It will be interesting to see what God has in store!!

  2. Carrie, I’m so sorry you are going through a period of transition too. It’s never easy. I’m excited for you to pick your Bible back up again though! That has been the hardest habit to start again, but the best at the same time. I’d love to hear what God does in the next part of your journey! So let me know when you know. Okay? 🙂

  3. Dana I’m so sorry you have to walk through this. I worry sometimes about my hubby being laid off and it hasn’t even happened. Thank you for your bravery in sharing the thoughts and feelings you can right now. I am praying for you and your family in this time of transition. Please email me if you every want to vent or share or ask for prayer more in depth about this. Times like this have a way of showing us that we were never really in control as much as we thought we were. Love you!