15 Oct 2009 False Sexpectations
 |  Category: ministry

bedOur pastor started a great sermon series called False Sexpectations. This past Sunday was the first of the series, and he taught about homosexuality, starting with the changes that happened in the Lutheran church this summer, which really moved him to preach this series. I think that was very important to touch on since we have more Lutheran churches in our area than any other denomination.

Scriptures used: Romans 1:25-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11


We must give God’s message to homosexuals. (We are called to give God’s message to everyone.)

Homosexual practice (not preference or feeling) is sin and is not to be participated in by anyone.

Love like Christ and remind them that change is possible. (God loves homosexuals and will equip them to change.) Change: to resist, the desire may still be there, but you can be freed from the life style.

Churches have a history of communicating that homosexuality is a worst sin than any other. But, people have an easier time controlling sexual feelings than controlling their tongues from gossip.

2 things than can change in everyone: 1-What we believe, and 2-How we behave. #1 effects #2

You can listen to or watch the sermon here.

I was most excited to hear this sermon because I am proud of our pastor for being bold and preaching on something that most churches will tip-toe around. Although the sermon was on homosexuality, I was very convicted by my own actions and lack of grace in my heart. I look up to Tim for how forgiving he is and how much grace he has for others. That is an area that I have a lot of work to do in. When Pastor John said that “people have an easier time controlling sexual feelings than controlling their tongues from gossip” it really opened my eyes. Gossip is such an easy sin to get tangled in, especially when frustrated with something, or wanting to make myself feel like I’m better than someone. Over the years I have gotten better at not falling into gossip as much, but it is tough. I know if I keep on playing something over and over in my head out of frustration, I don’t need to let it out and tell others. I need to turn to God, and get rid of it.

Another part of the sermon that stuck out to me was when Pastor John talked about changing in a way that you resist the life style, that the desire may still be there, but you can be freed from the life style. That reminded me of my first 2 years in college. I got into the party scene my 2nd semester of my freshman year, was able to resist the drinking the first semester of my sophomore year, but then was right back into it 2nd semester. In order to free myself from that life style I had to transfer schools because I was not strong enough to resist in that atmosphere. God has completely blessed me for that decision with my wonderful husband, baby and family and friends surrounding me, also mending relationship from my first 2 years of college. I haven’t had any alcohol in over 6 years, although the desire has still been there, but I know it would take me down another messy path if I even so much had one drink. But I am very excited to say that last month was the first time I was turned off by just looking at a wine cooler at the grocery store. Before I would see it and would fantasize of the taste of it and would be frustrated with myself. But now God has taken even that desire away.

To end the service we sang Grace Flows Down:

Amazing Grace
How sweet the sound
Amazing Love
Now flowing down
From hands and feet
That were nailed to the tree
As Grace flows down and covers me
It covers me
It covers me
It covers me
And covers me

I have sung that song many times, but this time it really touched me. God has given me immeasurable amounts of grace, and I should do the same to others, but haven’t. So that has been my prayer this week, that God will give me a heart full of grace for others, like he has done for me.

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8 Responses

  1. 1
    Mrs. H 

    I agree… the boldness of a subject that is so clearly defined in scripture is usually tiptoed around. Thank you for your boldness in sharing your personal walk through struggles in this post as well. The song you’ve quoted gives me chills with thoughts of how much we have because of that amazing grace and love.

  2. 2

    I guess I’m just curious to know what makes you think the bible says homosexuality is wrong? was it the 2 men should not lie with a woman in a womans bed quote in the old testament, or was it the two other quotes added by the catholic church in the 16 century to push a political agenda, and use gays as a scapegoat.. both reasons seem pretty foolish, not that I’d expect anything more from people who follow preachers instead of jesus. The reason I say this is simply because I doubt very many people who actually read the bible would interpret it as saying homosexuality is bad. I bet it would be more along the lines of accepting and loving everyone. But yeah I’m sure jesus would exclude people too and preach hate, keep it up.

  3. 3

    I’ll give you until at least after sunday to respond, so you can go ask your preacher what you believe again.

  4. 4

    Thanks for sharing Dana. Great post!

  5. 5

    Leviticus 18:22 – “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.” (NIV)

    Leviticus 20:13 – “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable…”

    So if you read the Bible and follow Jesus you’re right it wouldn’t say that its a bad thing. I believe the term used is detestable but hey if you’re gonna pick and choose what you want from the Bible thats you’re choice. You are right about one thing though, we are still called to love them. Sin is sin to God and we should love them as Christ loves them.

  6. 6
    Nicole Ross 

    Please explain to me Romans 1:26-28. Just curious since it speaks of homosexuality in the New Testament. Just using an Old Testament scripture and some Catholic references doesn’t prove that homosexuality is not a sin.

  7. @ Dustin, I was going to respond to your questions, but because you appear to be looking for a fight, I’m choosing not to engage in that kind of a discussion. You can disagree with my understanding of scripture, but your belittling attacks will never lead to an open and honest conversation. If your heart is truly to humbly seek the Biblical teaching on homosexuality, there are plenty of other places for that. Just use Google and your Bible (read the New Testament) and you’ll find plenty. Any further comments like your previous ones will be promptly deleted. Thanks.

  8. 8

    Dustin, here are my thoughts. Based on your opening comments you obviously believe homosexuality is something we should all accept and embrace. Allow me to assume you either know someone personally or are actively involved in the homosexual lifestyle. Because this issue is very personal it can become hard to stay open to opinions or truths that go against what you believe or feel to be right. Thankfully what we feel or believe to be true doesn’t matter in the end. What really matters is what God has to say about the subject. The Bible is very clear on the sin of homosexuality and to think otherwise is twisting God’s Word to fit your life rather than changing your life to fit God’s Word. Your final comment says you’ll give Dana until Sunday to respond because she needs to talk to her pastor to figure out what she believes. What if her pastor came back to her and said he thought homosexuality was right? Would she then be able to say that is the truth because her pastor said it? Absolutely not because it doesn’t matter what her pastor thinks if it goes against what the Bible says. That is the final authority, not my thoughts or feelings and not your thoughts or feelings. If we made all our decisions based on what we wanted and what we felt was “right” then we wouldn’t have any truth, only opinion. Homosexuality is a sin just like gossip, stealing, and cheating and anyone who chooses to live a life marked or patterned in a sin needs to confess their sins and run away from temptation just like Joseph did when Potiphar’s wife tried to seduce him.
    Again, this seems like a very personal subject for you and I hope you are willing to see the truth for what it is. Homosexuals can defiantly experience hatred and disdain from Christians but that does not excuse their sinful lifestyle just like it wouldn’t excuse someone who was cheating in their marriage from being in sin.